After a one night standard wild experience, it’s usual that you may feel regret next day when you wake up, suddenly all the body pleasure just faded away, gone were the positive emotions, and left your mind with unwanted shame and depression. The person you spent the night with joy could be a friends or even a stranger like a bartender, or someone you picked up in the bar. In order to avoid the depression feelings for a casual hookup, here are some kindly tips.
Don’t beat yourself up
The reasons towards hookup regrets varies, maybe you got drunk and upset, or this one night hookup is just a rush decision. Obviously, the bad feeling comes cuz something isn’t right. Is it because you don't like your friends with benefits that much? Do you really want this and worry your partner might make it more casual than you expect? Or, is it because you want something more substantial and this feels like just a shred of the intimacy you want? Whatever the reason is, remember don’t beat yourself up, everyone makes mistakes and nothing about this makes you a bad person! So just try to figure out what you really want from this casual dating and work toward that.
Keep yourself busy
Tell yourself what done is done, you will get nothing but unnecessary anxiety and stress if you keep dwelling on the past decision, it’s not worth it, so it’s time to get refresh, why not try to take a shower, or get yourself all dress up and hang out with some friends. Soon it will become a past story, and when you look back at it, you’ll view this experience in a different angle. This is a part of your life, and a chance for you to make some changes in the future as well.
Try to move on
If you wanna try something more than a casual hookup, do it up. If not, move along. Everyone has unpleasant hookups and stories that cringe at telling, it maybe helpful if you make it into a joke and talk it out with your closest friend, just laughing about it, which seems like something that didn't really happen. It's a part we called learning and growing. Accept the mistake you’ve made and move on, no one is perfect, and remember no rush decisions anymore. Learning the mistake will help you overcome the shame feeling, what done is done, a mistake is only something you take but if you reflect from it that’s something you can give back and even changing it into a lesson.
You're still valuable.
These things happen and it's understandable to feel a bit bad or a little guilty, but pointless and destructive to dwell on it or hate yourself for a spur in the moment decision. The shitty feelings about a one night hookup doesn't have any consequences except your own regret. Keep in mind that you are still valuable and this experience doesn’t define you.